Next time someone challenges to conform, say no. You have to be yourself first before you can be responsible for anyone else. I see many of my friends become what their partner wants them to become. It honestly makes me so so sad for them. You must be your own independent self with your own life. Losing yourself in a relationship is one of the biggest mistakes you can ever make. When that relationship dissolves, you discover how alone you really are. You have no friends because you allowed your significant other to consume your life. None of your old friends want to be your friend again because they see the repeat offender that you are–find a guy/girl, ditch your friends. No one likes taking a back seat to your relationship. There is a reason the says “Bros before hoes” and “Chicks before dicks” exist. Your relationship won’t always be there, but your friends will. Take care of yourself, take care of your friends (and family), then take care of our significant other. If you don’t, do not expect any of them to be standing their waiting to catch you when the bottom falls out. Hitting the ground face first hurts. Don’t be a victim.